Question: Good morning, Holy Spirit. I’m wondering if you will talk to us about discernment. How do we know the difference between intuition and fear?
Answer: The best answer to this question is that fear comes from fear. If you are feeling a particular prompt, and you are feeling no fear or judgment at the time, that prompt is coming from intuition. However if you judge the prompt, you may then feel fear. But the fear is not coming from the prompt. It is coming from your judgment of it.
Question: Can’t couples feel opposite prompts, and doesn’t this result in conflict? Isn’t there a desire to have my prompt be right, which means that I see the other’s prompt as wrong?
Answer: It is unlikely that a true intuitive prompt would conflict with another true intuitive prompt since intuition comes from the same guiding source. When there seems to be conflict between prompts, there is evidence that fear has entered or additional interpretation has been added to a basic intuitive prompt. This is not the time to sit down and determine who is right and who is wrong. This is a time to sit down and discover together the intuitive guidance that works for you. We are not talking about compromise or winning and losing. We are talking about discovering together as one.
Question: This sounds like what Laurent and I did together yesterday. We called it finding our space together. What feedback would you give us on the process we used?
Answer: Actually, it was very good. There was a lot of fear in your discussion, but what you chose to do that was very important was not judge the fear. You agreed to acknowledge that fear exists and you agreed to allow it now. You also agreed that letting go of fear is the real goal and you imagined how your “space” may change as fear disappears. These were very good steps to take. Bravo on your conversation.
Question: Is there anything we could have done better?
Answer: There is always something that can be done better, but “better” has a way of coming when you have readied yourself for it. A better question to ask is, “How can we ready ourselves to work together better?”
The answer, of course, is willingness. You must want to continue to find your space together, more than you want to have your own way. As long as there is “my way” and “your way”, there is separation. “Our way” can be a better way as long as “our way” does not become different than “their way.” Couples are useful healing relationships when they are a symbol of oneness, but as they become an institution unto themselves, they are merely a form of engendering a continued perception of separation.
Question: Is there anything else you’d like to share about discerning between intuition and fear?
Answer: Discernment will become clearer as you desire discernment more than you desire to be right or to have your own way. You may notice some fear at the thought of letting go of your way or of being right. That is only the ego’s fear of ceasing to exist. Do not let it bother you, but do notice it. The ego will not be let go before you are ready. You cannot do anything other than move at your own pace. There is nothing to fear. The ego tells you that you are dying, but that isn’t true. You are learning to recognize the true cause of suffering, which is the same as learning the difference between what you want and what you don’t want. But until you learn this fully, you will keep the idea of ego because you think you want it. It cannot truly die, because it does not truly live. It is an idea that is held to because it is valued, and when you no longer value it, you will choose to step through fear and let it go.
You are doing this now. Be gentle with yourself in the process, and be aware that you are stepping through fear. Being gentle does include not going faster than you feel you can bear, but it also includes not avoiding when you are ready to look at and release fears. Know thy Self and listen to your intuitive guidance. Without fear, it guides you perfectly according to your desire to be guided now.